Reconnect, Rebuild, and Strengthen Your Relationship
When two successful individuals find themselves feeling disconnected despite their achievements, it's often a sign that the relationship needs intentional care and attention. As an online couples therapist licensed through PSYPACT, I work with high-functioning couples across Arizona, Connecticut, New Jersey, Rhode Island, Maryland, Washington DC, Virginia, Colorado, Florida and Illinois. I understand that ambitious couples face unique challenges—balancing demanding careers, managing stress, and maintaining emotional intimacy can feel overwhelming even when everything looks perfect from the outside.
Understanding Your Relationship Through a New Lens
My approach to online couples therapy recognizes that each partner brings their own nervous system responses, attachment patterns, and life experiences into the relationship. I work through both a trauma-informed and neurodivergent lens, which means I tailor my virtual sessions to how your brains actually process connection, conflict, and communication. This isn't about following a rigid script—it's about understanding what makes your specific relationship work and where it gets stuck.
Many couples I work with—whether they're in Phoenix, Hartford, Northern Virginia, or the DC metro area—describe feeling like roommates rather than partners, or finding themselves caught in repetitive arguments that never seem to resolve. Others notice that anxiety, depression, or burnout in one or both partners has created distance they don't know how to bridge. These patterns often develop gradually, making them difficult to recognize until the disconnection feels overwhelming.
My Approach to Online Couples Therapy
I integrate multiple evidence-based approaches to create a treatment plan that fits your unique relationship dynamics. Drawing from Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, I help partners understand the emotional cycles that keep them stuck and develop new ways of reaching for each other. Through Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) techniques, we identify and shift thought patterns that fuel conflict or distance.
For couples dealing with the impact of trauma, I incorporate somatic therapy and polyvagal theory to address how past experiences show up in present-day interactions. When one or both partners are neurodivergent, I adapt my approach to honor different processing styles and sensory needs, ensuring both partners feel seen and understood—something that translates beautifully through the online therapy format.
My training in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) provides tools for managing intense emotions and improving communication during conflict. Through Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), couples learn to align their actions with their values, creating a relationship that reflects what matters most to both partners. I also integrate Internal Family Systems (IFS) work when helpful, allowing partners to understand the different "parts" of themselves that emerge in relationship dynamics.
What Makes My Online Practice Different
Throughout my years of practice, I've developed a reputation for truly "seeing" my clients—even through a screen. I notice subtle shifts in emotion, track non-verbal communication, and adapt my approach moment by moment while keeping your bigger relationship goals in focus. This means I meet you where you are emotionally while gently guiding you toward the changes you're seeking, whether you're joining from your home office in Denver, your apartment in Chicago, or anywhere else across my licensed states.
I excel at presenting complex therapeutic concepts in ways that make sense and feel accessible. Rather than overwhelming you with jargon, I translate evidence-based research into practical insights you can actually use. My extensive training across multiple modalities means I can shift approaches based on what your relationship needs in any given session—whether that's learning specific communication skills, processing deeper patterns, or simply having space to be heard.
The Journey of Online Couples Therapy
Every couple's therapy journey begins with understanding where you are now and where you want to be. During our initial online sessions, I gather information about your relationship history, current challenges, and goals for therapy. This isn't about assigning blame or determining who's "right"—it's about understanding the dance you've created together and finding new steps that work better for both partners.
Some couples come to me seeking brief, focused work on specific issues like communication during conflict or rebuilding intimacy after a major life transition. Others are looking for deeper, longer-term work to transform entrenched patterns or heal from significant ruptures. I honor both approaches and tailor treatment length and intensity to match your needs and availability—a flexibility that online therapy uniquely provides.
Common Challenges I Address in Virtual Couples Therapy
High-functioning couples often struggle with challenges that feel particularly isolating because everything appears successful on the surface. Whether you're navigating the fast-paced environment of Washington DC, managing dual careers in Connecticut's corporate centers, or balancing life in any of the states I serve, I frequently work with couples experiencing:
Emotional disconnection despite professional success - When both partners excel in their careers but feel like strangers at home, creating space for vulnerability and authentic connection becomes essential.
Communication breakdowns during stress - High achievers often have well-developed professional communication skills that mysteriously fail in intimate relationships, especially during periods of burnout or overwhelm.
Anxiety and depression affecting the relationship - When one or both partners struggle with mental health challenges, I help couples understand how these experiences impact relationship dynamics without letting them define the partnership.
Navigating neurodivergence in relationships - Whether recently diagnosed or long-recognized, ADHD and autism can significantly impact relationship dynamics. I help couples understand and work with, rather than against, neurodivergent traits.
Life transitions straining the partnership - Career changes, family planning, fertility challenges, caring for aging parents, supporting children through health or mental health struggles, and even geographic moves can test even the strongest relationships. I provide guidance and practical tools to help couples and families navigate these transitions with resilience and connection.
Creating Safety and Connection Through Online Therapy
The foundation of effective online couples therapy is creating a virtual space where both partners feel safe to be vulnerable. I pay careful attention to the therapy process itself, noticing when one partner withdraws or when certain topics trigger defensive responses. This awareness allows me to adjust my approach in real-time, ensuring both partners remain engaged and feel heard, regardless of whether you're in the same room or joining from separate locations.
Through mindfulness practices and somatic awareness adapted for virtual sessions, couples learn to recognize their own nervous system responses and those of their partner. This body-based understanding often provides insights that talking alone cannot reach. When partners understand that withdrawal, criticism, or defensiveness often stem from feeling threatened rather than not caring, compassion becomes more accessible.
Getting Started: Your First Steps
The journey begins with a free 15-minute online consultation where you can ask questions and share your concerns. This conversation helps me understand whether my approach aligns with what you're seeking. I want to ensure we're a good fit before you invest your time and energy in the full intake process.
If we decide to move forward, our initial 90-minute online intake session allows me to gather comprehensive information about your relationship while giving you both space to share your perspectives. Following the intake, we have a feedback session where I share my initial observations and we collaboratively create a detailed treatment plan that addresses your specific goals.
Between the consultation and intake, I provide practice policies, forms, and screening measures through my secure client portal.
Completing these in advance allows us to use our session time more effectively, focusing on your unique situation rather than general information gathering.
Practical Considerations for Your Online Therapy Journey
My exclusive online format provides maximum flexibility to accommodate busy schedules across time zones—whether you're working late in New Jersey's financial sector, managing government schedules in DC, or navigating different work-from-home setups. My online scheduler makes it easy to find appointment times that work for both partners, even when travel or work commitments might otherwise interfere with consistent therapy.
While I may suggest exercises or practices to try between sessions, I understand that life gets busy. You're the drivers of your treatment, and my role is to support you at whatever pace feels sustainable.
Beginning Your Journey Toward Connection
If you're ready to transform your relationship patterns and rediscover the connection that brought you together, I invite you to reach out. Through PSYPACT credentials, I'm able to serve couples throughout Arizona, Connecticut, New Jersey, Rhode Island, Maryland, Washington DC, Virginia, Colorado, Florida and Illinois. My online practice removes geographic barriers while maintaining the depth and effectiveness of traditional couples therapy.
Contact me today to schedule your free consultation and take the first step toward strengthening your partnership, wherever you're located within my licensed states.