I often work with clients who tell me they’ve tried therapy before and didn’t find it helpful. There are many reasons this can happen, and therapist fit is a meaningful one (something I’ll explore in a separate post). But another reason comes up just as often and is talked about far less: Sometimes therapy doesn’t help because the person doesn’t have the capacity for it at that moment in time. This isn’t a failure of motivation or effort. It’s a mismatch between what’s being